Friday, November 4, 2011

A Few Kind Words

I had originally written this blog on October 25 but I left my blog notebook at the prosthetist's office, so here it is now.

I am sitting in the prosthetist's office having yet another "top" put on my left leg. It seems as though these appointments are never-ending and perhaps they will be. I have come to the conclusion that the fittings and refittings are just a part of this whole leg loss scenario and I have learned to accept and appreciate it as a part of wearing and walking on prosthetic legs.

What I would like to address is something I experienced yesterday (which was really two weeks ago now).
I was going to my usual Monday morning physical therapy appointment and when I wheeled past the glass doors into the reception area, another waiting patient said to me, "you are amazing." I thanked her and it was then I realized she had seen me at previous appointments.

As my therapy continued with my beloved Chris, everything was going reasonably well. After walking with the walker, we decided we were going to practice walking a few steps backward on the Canadian crutches. The previous week, I came as close as I ever had to falling, while attempting to walk backward and sit down. Both Chris and I were surprised that I had such difficulty walking a few steps backward.

As I was walking past the same patient who had complimented me earlier, she asked me if I "worked out?" I said that I did. She commented to her therapist, David, that she could tell I worked out because of how strong I appeared. She went on to say that her physical problems paled in comparision to mine. She continued to say that she had never seen such determination and again she thought I was amazing.

I thanked her for her comments and told her how good she made me feel. Actually those positive comments she gave me set the mood for my entire day.

It is astounding how far a few kind words can go in making someone feel good about themselves. Receiving positive feedback from others has an  uplifting and longlasting affect on the person who is the object of kind words. I have believed for quite some time that passing along a compliment or two to another makes that person and you feel better. It is a win win situation.

Why then are people so hesitant to compliment others? It doesn't cost anything and the potential benefits are incalculable. I have always tried to applaud the good works or deeds of others through my words because I know how it feels to be on the receiving end of a compliment.

It is kind of like telling someone you love them, people don't tell each other how they really feel because often times, they think the other person already knows how they feel; that is not always the case.

A few kind words can go along way in making another person feel better and generally have a brighter outlook on their day and even their lives.

Steve has told me on numerous occasions that he feels people are very guarded with respect to being open about their lives. He feels when you are too open about your life you make yourself vulnerable to others. It is this vulnerability that prevent people from complimenting others. Sometimes individuals are concerned that their kind words may be misconstrued, as a "come on" or otherwise misunderstood, consequently they say nothing. I say, "who cares." I cannot be any other way than what I am. I do not live my life in secrecy as this blogs attests. I am pretty much an open book, what you see and hear from me is pretty much genuine and true.

If I like your outfit, I will tell you, if your hair looks good, I will tell you, if I am proud and thankful you are a part of my life, you will already know it because I have already told you so.

If we could all pay more attention to trying to be kind with not only our words but also our actions the world would be a better place. I have been trying to do my part for a long time and I will continue to do so.

Please join me in making our world a more pleasant place to live. By the way I have I told you lately how happy I am that you take the time to read my blog? Your participation in my life, in and of itself makes me happy, thank you.

1 comment:

  1. Glen,

    The last time I saw you was probably 2 years ago. Life happened, my partner and I switched gym, I never had the chance to say "I will see you around". Everyday, we drive past Cheetah, and everyday, I look for your Red SUV, and everyday, I wonder, what happenned to Glenn? Did he change car? Did he change gym? Did he elope?

    I guess, I got my answers today. I went to Cheetah to work out and I saw a "memoir" of sorts to a guy who used to be a trainer who passed away. Long story short, I googled his name and came across your blog.

    Let me say, I am so sorry to hear that you lost the other leg. I can only imagine how tough it must be for you, but knowing you, I know, you will get through this. It is a set back, but let it not derail you. Be strong, take one day at a time, allow yourself to wallow and cry once in a while.

    I always believe that everything happens for a reason, although sometimes, we might never fully understand the reason. Hang in there and I dont know how religious you are, but I will say a prayer for you tonight for your speedy recovery....

    By the way, this is Jeff, I dont know if you remember me. But we used to work out together at Cheetah, the few people who are there before the door opens. Short asian guy, spiky hair..okay that does not help :-)

    Shoot me an email sometime. Here is my email address:

    Stay strong my friend.


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